Think of an airplane. In an emergency, they always tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.
Why?
Because you’re no help to anyone if you’re unconscious.
The same applies to life. When you prioritize your well-being, everyone around you benefits—from your colleagues to your kids.
I’m a pediatric eye surgeon. Yes, I’m a mom to two energetic, endlessly curious kids. And yes, I love fitness and believe deeply in living a healthy, intentional life. But that doesn’t mean I always get it right. Most days, I’m just trying to keep the train on the tracks—squeezing in a 15-minute stretch between surgeries or sipping a protein shake in the car while dropping off my son at practice.
Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: It’s Smart
For the longest time, I believed that taking time for myself was a sign of indulgence. As a doctor, a mother, and a wife, I was conditioned (like many women) to believe that my value lay in how much I could give to others.
But here’s the truth I learned the hard way: you can’t pour from an empty cup.
There was a time I believed that putting myself last was the noble, selfless thing to do. That good mothers, good doctors, good women sacrifice. But after one too many nights of emotional burnout, I had a realization: Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s survival.
Why It’s Critical for Professionals
Professionals, especially women in high-pressure roles face immense demands. We’re expected to lead, nurture, deliver, and smile while doing it. But if we don’t step back and care for ourselves, we risk long-term damage, not just to our health, but to our ability to be present and effective in the roles that matter most.
Here’s what happens when you prioritize self-care:
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- You make better decisions (your brain loves rest and movement).
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- You show up more present for your family, team, and patients.
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- You reduce the risk of chronic illness (stress is sneaky and serious).
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- You become a role model—not for martyrdom, but for resilience.
The Stress Cycle: Complete It or Pay the Price
Stress isn’t just a feeling. It’s a physical cycle your body needs to complete in order to return to a state of calm. When you face a stressful moment say, your toddler throws a tantrum as you’re answering work emails, your body releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.
The problem? Most of us never actually complete the cycle. We push it down, move on, suppress the emotion, and keep going. Over time, this unresolved stress builds up, affecting our digestion, sleep, mood, and relationships.
I didn’t understand this until I found myself snapping at my kids, struggling to sleep, and feeling exhausted despite doing “everything right.” It wasn’t just stress—it was unprocessed, unacknowledged stress.
So how do we break the cycle?
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- Move your body. Even 10 minutes of walking or dancing helps release tension.
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- Breathe intentionally. Deep, slow breathing signals safety to the nervous system.
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- Talk it out. A trusted friend, journal, or therapist can help you process emotions.
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- Feel your feelings. Let yourself cry, rage, laugh—without judgment.
Fitness Through Transitions: Consistency Over Perfection
I’ve lived in three countries, changed jobs, navigated motherhood, and worked through personal loss—all while trying to maintain my health.
I used to think staying fit meant hour-long workouts and perfectly prepped meals. Now I know: It’s about consistency, not perfection.
What works for me:
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- Micro-movements: 10 squats while brushing my teeth. Walking calls. Taking stairs.
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- Meal hacks: Greek yogurt, fruit, and nuts—ready-to-go, nutritious, no prep.
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- Weekend resets: I use Sundays to plan 3 workouts and shop for staples.
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- Body over clock: If my body says rest, I listen. Fitness isn’t punishment.
Self-Care Is a Radical Act of Self-Respect
If you’ve ever felt guilty for taking time for yourself, I see you. But hear this:
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” — Anne Lamott
As women—especially in caregiving roles—we’re conditioned to pour from an empty cup. But you can’t give your best if you’re constantly running on fumes. Self-care doesn’t have to be a spa day. It can be saying no, taking a nap, or letting go of perfection.
You Are More Than What You Do
Transitions are part of life. Your roles will change. Your routines will evolve. But your worth does not depend on your productivity, your job title, or your to-do list.
You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to start over. You are allowed to matter to yourself.
From one overbooked-but-hopeful woman to another: Don’t wait for life to slow down. Start where you are. Move a little. Breathe a little deeper. And most importantly—be kind to yourself.
Your body, your mind, and your future self will thank you.
By Dr. Sam | DrSam&G
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